MysticWicks Online Pagan Community and Spiritual Sanctuary - Just Talk http://mysticwicks.com Where Pagans and Pagan friends come to chat about everything under the sun and moon. NOTE: Please post in the appropriate forums. If you dont know where to post something...this is probably your best bet. en Thu, 09 Sep 2010 01:01:59 GMT vBulletin 2 http://www.mysticwicks.com/images/theme_images/spring_2010/misc/rss.jpg MysticWicks Online Pagan Community and Spiritual Sanctuary - Just Talk http://mysticwicks.com A Personal Triumph http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232485&goto=newpost Wed, 08 Sep 2010 19:03:51 GMT This isn't really relevant to anything, I just felt like sharing!

I am working on completion of a Diploma in Disability Studies. I have one course to go...a community research project.

We recently found out that our proposals will be going under full review from the main campus (I attend classes at a satellite campus of the university), and in order for there to be enough time we need to have them updated and ready to go for today's class (the first one).

I have been so worried about this that I've been putting it off and putting it off. I finally read my instructor's comments on my first draft, and am feeling a WHOLE LOT BETTER!

She frequently uses words such as "brilliant," "YES!", and "exceptional."

I was so worried that it was terrible that I've been doing everything to avoid looking at it, even though I know I need it for 4:30 this afternoon.

My topic has to do with the quality of information people who have sustained head injuries receive in our community.


I finally feel like this project is doable!! ]]> Just Talk LadyDryad http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232485 Going to College with Autism (Off Topic, Non-Pagan - I sort of just need some out) http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232484&goto=newpost Wed, 08 Sep 2010 17:44:57 GMT I have a long story to share, and a few questions to ask. But mostly, I just need to get this off my chest and try to sort things out. Hope you don't mind.

First off, I have "high functioning Autism", which means I can more or less function in society but do require some assistace in some areas of daily living. (I can't drive a car for example, and I often forget to do "simple things" like eat or shower and have to have some one there to remind me.)

For 30 years my biggest problem was not talking. I can talk, and around family I can talk fine with no problems at all. There are exactly 7 people whom I am able to have conversations with. Every one else forget it. I can't explain it, but it's like I totally lose my voice. I try to speak but no words come out at all or some times it's just a bunch of random gurggles. Sometimes if the person is patent enough to sit around waiting long enough, I am able to get out a disconected string of baddly stuttered peices of words. It's terrible and embarrassing because people sort of pat me on the head like I was a cat and say "poor thing, she's retarded". Than they start talking about me like they think I'm not there or can't understand what they are saying and often they say things that hurt my feelings. It's really upsetting, especially seeing how I am so very good at talking around family members.

Usually if I wanted to talk to people I end up writing things down, that way they also know I'm not retarded and can understand them perfectly. As a result, I became a writer and author and have written several books, short stories, articles, etc. I love writing, but let's face it, the pay sucks.

Than there is the fact at age 35 years old, I was still live with my dad, because there are just so many things I am not able to do.

Well, in 2005, during a huge flood that left me homeless and my dad in a coma. It was the first time I had ever been without "an adult" there to help me with simple day to day things. And I found out fast just how much there was out there that I really, had absolutly no idea how to do.

And at that point, in 2005, I had never been to a doctor, had never attended school, had never left the house, and the only people who ever visited me were the preists my parents kept bringing in to do exsocisms (my parents come from a religion that does not believe in doctors, schools, etc,). I spent the first 30 years of my life being told that I "acted different" because I had a demon living in me.

Well, in 2005, my mom ran off with some guy, than the flood came through and took our house with it and left my dad in a coma. Suddenly, I was alone and living under a tarp, with no idea how to do anything. Next thing I know I'm being taken to a psychologist on the order of a judge at some court, and everything changed.

The psychologist, said I had Autism, and explained that though I had a serious "social retardation" caused by my parents having isolated me all those years, he said my Autism wasn't really all that bad and I could with propper training, learn to live on my own in society.

Today, 5 years later, I have come a long way:
  • Five years ago, my speach was as discribed above. Today, though it's not perfect, I can now carry out more or less normal conversations with almost any one. (YAY!)
  • Five years ago, my social skills were so crippled, I could not get a job. I now temp part time at Macy's, and am an Avon Rep, and have an online job as a psychic and am now a professional artist, and will be opening a kiosk stand at a local beach next summer.
  • Five years ago, not even the psychologist thought I would ever be able to drive a car. He said it was very unlikely that a driver's lisence was in my future and I should plan on using busses and taxis the rest of my life. Today I have 2 cars of my own!
  • I had never attended school. Not grade school, not high school, nothing. I am currently taking night school classes and will have my GED hopefully, before the end of this year.
  • I took Bible seminary/pastoral courses with 3 different churches and now I am an ordained minister with my own chapel.

I know for most people these things may not seem too big, because they are standard things the average person just does on their own, but you got to understand that for some one with Autism, these are steps that 9 times out of 10 NEVER happen EVER in their life time, so for me to be able to acomplish these things, is really, really, REALLY big!

The biggest hurdle for my Autism is numbers. I can barely count, I forget the names of numbers, and though I've tried every thing from flash cards to recordings to study guides to in home tutors I still can not remember the times table. And than to make the problem even worse, what few times I do get the number right, I usually later find out I had reversed them, for example I'll look at a clock and see the time is 4:58 but than say aloud that the time is 8:54 or the answer to a problem might be 42 and I'll have written done 24 instead!

Well, here's the part were I get to asking you questions. You see, I'm being told by a lot of different people that it's all well and good my overcoming these huge challanges with my Autism, and learning how to become indepentant and all, but they say it's all I'll ever be able to do and there are no more challenges out there for me. People who knew my 5 years ago before the psychologist and who see me today, say they are amazed at how much I have changed and progressed, but than they add, that my overcoming these challeges was sort of pointless seeing how in their words I'll "never live a normal life", they say I'll never have a "real" "professional" career, never marry and have a family, and that my life is more or less meaningless because I will never be able to make any sort of meaningful contribution to society. (These people who say this, are my relatives btw - aunts, uncles, cousins.)

Well, I don't believe them. I believe that ANYTHING is possible and that I can do anything I've put my put my mind to doing. I mean, just look at what I've done in the last 5 years - no one ever thought I would have a job or an apartment or drive a car or talk even, and here I am five years later doing every one of those things. I say why stop there?

So what's next for me? Well, I've discovered a few things the past few years: I love helping people via my psychic hotline job. I love helping people via my non-denominational-sort-of-quasi-Christian-Pagan chapel. I love learning new things and taking school classes. Because I have overcome these supposedly impossible for an Autistic person to overcome challanges, I am able to now advise others on how to overcome similar challenges. And I just plain, really, really, really like helping people. And I now have a career goal in mind as a result: I want to become a counselor.

After researching laws ans guidelines and all the ins and outs, I have discovered that in order to achive my goal of becoming a profesional counselor I need to get a Ph.D in Psychology with a focus on Family Counseling and setting up a private practice, which means I need about 8 years of medical college with a focus on mental health.

(Oh yeah, one of the weirder symptoms of my Autism is that I see ghosts, angels, faeries, ect. and am able to talk to them, which is why I am so good at being an online psychic. People tell me that what I do is called "channleing" and that I am a channle for Spirit Guides and Ascended Masters, but I'm not too familiar with that termology. And I wanted to use this as part of my counselling career...so I'd be sort of a spiritual guidance couselor in addition to being a family counselor).

So, I tell people whom I know, about this whole going to medical school thing and they just out right laugh in my face. It's, some what disconserting actually, because it's not like a little laugh either, it's a big full gut belly laugh that goes on for several minutes, followed by a responce like: "Seriously? You? College? Forget it."

It's frustrating, because there really isn't any one I can talk to about this, seeing how the people I know personally are not only completely non supportive of my going to college, they have outright animostity towards it. My relatives, don't aprove of schooling on any level, remember? And they don't believe in doctors either. So this is a really BIG "no-no" in their eyes, which a few of them are now saying is proof that I truely am "demon possessed". *SIGH* There is just no reasoning with them.

The people who believe in Autism (as opposed to demon possession) say that there is no way I would ever survive college, and that medical college is just out of the question because it's so much harder. They say my Autism limits me too much, and that it's great that I've come as far as I have these past 5 years, but that college is just not an option for me, because no college would ever even consider accepting some one with Autism as a student.

Right now getting past basic math so that I can advance to algebra and than college math, seems to be the only road block (other than financial aid, which I'll figure out as I go along) preventing me from getting into medical college. I don't think my Autism will stop me from going to college.

So I suppose my question is have you or some one you know, ever done something against all the odds and come out on top?

Also, do you have any suggestions on what I could do to get math and numbers to stick. I've been learning everything else with such ease, but math is just not getting through at all and I don't know what to do to overcome it. I've tried everything and so far nothing has worked.

And have you ever known any college students, med students, or professionals with PH.Ds who also had Autism? Are their any psychologists or counselors out their who have Autism? If so, could you share their stories?

Do you know of any websites where I could find information on going to college and starting a professional career while having Autism?

Thanks! Sorry this got so long. I just needed to get this out there. Thank you for taking the time to read this. ]]> Just Talk EelKat http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232484 Ever have one of those days..... http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232480&goto=newpost Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:39:57 GMT You know the days....Where you have thought about things so much your head hurts, the things you are thinking about have made your stomach hurt. You can't do the things you want to do, and you have to do the things that you don't want to do. Those days that you just want to go crawl under a rock and hide for a while.


Well today is that day for me.......And it sucks.

Nuff said. ]]> Just Talk Fairywolf http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232480 Most relaxed wedding ever http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232455&goto=newpost Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:18:54 GMT So, I'm getting married on Friday! There is zero stress from the wedding too. The trick? We have no plan. :lol: We picked a day, invited our parents, got our license, and we're set. The general plan for the day is breakfast/lunch whenever everyone is awake, a walk through the woods at some point, ceremony, and done. Super casual, very relaxed day. My husband and I aren't very fancy people, and our relationship is based on outdoor activities, so it suits us. ^_^ ]]> Just Talk RoseKitten http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232455 What do you like about MW and her members? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232453&goto=newpost Tue, 07 Sep 2010 15:43:32 GMT Because I think a little positivity right now could be a good thing. :) What do you like about Mystic Wicks? What do you like about the members here? Thought this might be a fun thread to get everyone a little more relaxed or at least happier. Feel free to say anything nice at MW, its... Because I think a little positivity right now could be a good thing. :)

What do you like about Mystic Wicks? What do you like about the members here?

Thought this might be a fun thread to get everyone a little more relaxed or at least happier. Feel free to say anything nice at MW, its members or the poster above you, though don't feel pressured to answer all the questions listed. :) ]]> Just Talk Caitlin.ann http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232453 Any good forums for eCommerce merchants? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232442&goto=newpost Tue, 07 Sep 2010 01:22:17 GMT Hey all Does anyone know of a good site with *active *forums for eCommerce site owners? ty ty Hey all

Does anyone know of a good site with active forums for eCommerce site owners?

ty ty ]]> Just Talk surreal http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232442 glutton for punishment http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232437&goto=newpost Mon, 06 Sep 2010 17:17:54 GMT Ok so, yesterday, I was taking out the trash. The neighbors had a really pretty pair of pits tied out. I didn't realize they were even there until I walked right up on them. They both immediately wanted to be petted and loved on. So I stopped, and the male noticed what I was holding smelled alot like steak, lol. He jumped up and went for the bag, which I raised up out of they way. Well, he got a mouthful of my right hip instead. Nice set of cuts and a big bruise. On instinct, I grabbed his top jaw with my left hand to get him off. Think I might have grabbed too hard, cuz he chomped on me hand good and left me a 4 inch gash along my index finger. After that, it just let go, and looked like it didn't understand what just happened.

The owner was on the dog as soon as it let go, basically pinning it down. And this pit was BIG. He apologized profusely, showed me his rabies and vaccination tags, and gave me some gauze and med tape.

I wasn't really angry, because it wasn't a malicious attack, just trying to get a snack. I know its not good that the dog went for the trash bag, but it wasn't a "Im gonna kill you" attack, so I didn't report it. After that, they took the dogs inside, and I think the owner took them back to his house. It was my neighbor's son's dogs.

Now, just to put salt in the wound, I ended up spending about 12 hours after that helping a friend cut down an old tree that was leaning dangerously close to the house next door. I feel like absolute crap this morning. Sore in places Stephen Hawkings didn't know existed... Just wanted to let you guys know what going on in my little slice of the world. ]]> Just Talk kingcanine http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232437 <![CDATA[I'm going to College...]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232428&goto=newpost Mon, 06 Sep 2010 04:20:22 GMT So I'm ganna be going to college. I never would have dreamed I would be going to college but I am. Going to get a Associate of Arts in Business administration with a concentration in medical billing and coding though American InterContinental University Online. I have no idea how I am going to pay for it but i guess i will figure that out. Has anyone gone to school with them before? I just can't believe I'm really going to go to college.:boing:

]]> Just Talk angle kitsune http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232428 Anybody heard of the University of Metaphysical Sciences? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232427&goto=newpost Mon, 06 Sep 2010 03:45:35 GMT Or the Toledo based Healing Art Forms Institute?

Here are their websites. Check em out and tell me what you think:

http://www.healingartforms.com/

http://umsonline.org/index.htm


I just started college at the University of Toledo, but I'm not really enjoying it. It's really mainstream and I'm not sure about the major I selected either (Early Childhood Edu). I'm just not passionate about it. My REAL dream is to someday start a mind, body, spirit healing and learning center. I just came out of the broom closet to my parents and while they may be okay about it, they're not so okay with my interest in pursuing metaphysics on a professional level. My dad especially thinks I would in essence be A. wasting my talent and B. taking advantage of people if I was to get a degree in metaphysics. He obviously doesn't believe. My dilemma is should I:

1. Stay enrolled at Toledo and pursue a degree in something normal and forget all about metaphysics?

2. Stay enrolled at Toledo and finish out my degree there, while also pursuing my degree in metaphysics so I have something to fall back on if my business doesn't turn out the way I planned?

3. Stay enrolled at Toledo and finish out my degree there, and pursue metaphysics only AFTER I have a stable job and income?

4. Drop out of Toledo, and focus all my attention on getting my degree in metaphysics and acheiving my goal of having a healing/learning center?

Also, if you think I should stay with Toledo, should I declare a minor in business?

And also, which do you think sounds better and would give me the most career opportunities University of Metaphysical Sciences or Healing Art Forms Institute?

Thank you in advance for any advice!
]]> Just Talk Rosetta Morrigan http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232427 Stupid Beautiful Weddings...GRRR! http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232415&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 19:26:44 GMT Last night I was the photographer for my friends wedding. I'm not a professional by any means, she just likes the pictures that I take and that is what led to it.

I've been to a few weddings but because my main job was to capture people's emotions I was paying attention to everything. To me it wasn't a wedding but I was detached from what was going on because I was focusing on the task at hand.

The main emotion that I see last night was love but I also seen the by-product of this emotion as well. Lust, sadness, longing, jealousy, happiness, and raw animal instinct.

I let myself get caught up in it, embraced the feelings of the night, and was high on emotion. This morning I'm feeling the hangover.

This may sound weird but I'm so happy to be out of my last relationship. It was more of a relationship of necessity than anything else but with that being said when I woke up this morning I realize that I've never been in an actual loving relationship with someone that I consider and considers me an equal. This is something that has got me a little down today.

Back in the day when I did a lot of drugs and partied quite a bit I would wake up feeling like this. Tired, a little depressed, with the thought of "what is going to happen with my life." I haven't done any kind of drug and haven't drank in three years and I'm still going strong but this feeling is just weird.

I never thought emotions would do this to a person.

LOL...well, if you read this far I'm sorry if I sound like I'm whining. I just needed a place to get this out and seeing that all of my friends are either in relationships or see other people just as a piece of meat I don't have many people to talk to.

Thanks for listening. ]]> Just Talk Thrift http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232415 Airline passenger bill of rights, ideal vs. reality http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232394&goto=newpost Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:32:10 GMT Some may no, many do not, my current job is a shuttle bus driver for a hotel. I pick up and drop off flight crews to our airport. Thursday night Newark NJ cancelled many of it's flights for Friday in fear of Earl. I thought it was a bit odd to cancel flights 24 hours in advance, and then found it kind of sad when all flights could have left as scheduled due to Earl not doing a whole lot. I started talking to crews about this last night and today. Flights were cancelled because fear that flights might not take off on time and passengers could be stranded in a plane on the ground for a few hours.

So, I started thinking about this scenario. Let's say you are visiting the east coast from Europe. Would you want to wait 4-5 days for a flight and be insured that you wouldn't have to be on a plane waiting a couple hours on takeoff, or would you rather take a gamble that you might have to wait on an airplane for a couple hours and know that the airlines would get you home as quickly and safely as possible? How about if you missed your best friends wedding in Germany out of fear that you might be inconvenienced? How about if you missed a job interview for the same reason? Or you were in the military and missed the birth of your child because of fear that someone might be slightly uncomfortable? ]]> Just Talk memnoch http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232394 What would it take...? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232385&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 19:12:06 GMT I need to vent and talk to other people outside my family about my family. But, first I want to ask; What would it take to make you completely break away from your family. Mother, brother, sister etc... I am not talking about your children, but your extended family. I believe that is exactly... I need to vent and talk to other people outside my family about my family. But, first I want to ask; What would it take to make you completely break away from your family. Mother, brother, sister etc... I am not talking about your children, but your extended family.

I believe that is exactly what I need to do. However I wonder if I may be over reacting in someone else's mind. Your thoughts on the subject? ]]> Just Talk Linx http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232385 You may never see its like again http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232364&goto=newpost Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:26:10 GMT Yes it's true none of us living today may ever see it's like again. This past August (2010) was trully unique, it had 5 sundays, 5 mondays and 5 Tuesdays. From what I read it happened once in 823 years! And to think most of us probally never realized we were living in a trully unique period of time. ]]> Just Talk MonSno_LeeDra http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232364 Should you settle? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232358&goto=newpost Fri, 03 Sep 2010 21:52:00 GMT On another board I go to, I posted a topic. Long story short, I was told that guys will lie about certain things, I should deal with it, and good luck finding a guy that wouldnt lie about it. (in this issue, porn) To me, a marriage should consist of trust, compromise, love, compassion,... On another board I go to, I posted a topic. Long story short, I was told that guys will lie about certain things, I should deal with it, and good luck finding a guy that wouldnt lie about it. (in this issue, porn)

To me, a marriage should consist of trust, compromise, love, compassion, communication, trust, acceptance, a level of comfort, trust...did I mention trust? lol.

Anyways, to look over lies, because it "normal for guys to do" to me defeats the whole purpose of that whole trust thing, ya know. To me its settling for something less than what a person deserves.

No matter what type of relationship, be in man/women/women/man/man/etc etc. If there is not trust there, then its almost pointless. To me anyways.

So in this, people find it odd that I actually want the truth when I ask a question. I also make it a point, to try and not ask a question I do not want the answer to. People find this weird and most of the time think I am lying, or that it such a rare trait that its impossible for me to not be alone in this thinking.

Also to me, I would rather have the truth, even if it hurts and crushes me, cause I know for a fact, with myself, it does not hurt as much as being lied to. At least with being told the truth, there is a chance to heal and deal with it and move on from it.

So, are there "normal" lies, and should they be overlooked because its "natural" for something to be lied about, and should a person just settle and deal with it?

My personal opinion is no. Whats yours?

ETA: Since this has been brought up in a few posts, I am going to copy/past and put this upfront.

from me:
Quote:
I dont have a problem with porn in and of itself. I do have a problem with being lied to about it. If I had a huge problem with it then I never would have married my husband, considering his, er, activities and job when he lived in Cali.
]]> Just Talk TuathaSidhe http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232358 debate vs discuss http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232350&goto=newpost Fri, 03 Sep 2010 20:08:52 GMT We have those that like to debate and those that like to discuss.

I don't understand why people continue to clash with people of the other type rather than starting or participating in threads more suited to their style of conversation. Do we need to prefix each thread with "discuss" or "debate" in order for people to coexist?

I am seriously asking for input here. I am at a loss. I've tried to make room within the interpretation of the Respect rule to include those that want debate. We are a better forum for having those debates here. The information in the debate threads can very educational. But that doesn't mean that there is not just as much room for learning in a thread with only discussion. What can we do to make both sides happy?

The Admins spend the majority of their time looking for answers that will never make all the kids happy. One side or the other will say there is not enough room in the sandbox for their friends to play. Have you any idea how frustrating it is to try to make such a large group happy? There is no simple answer. So help me to find the one that makes sense to all of you. Or most of you. I don't want to choose. I like having room for both discussion and debate. But I will choose if I have to. Please don't put me in that position.

It's up to YOU. Figure out a way to coexist. ]]> Just Talk GEBS http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232350 <![CDATA[The "rudeness" issue.]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232278&goto=newpost Thu, 02 Sep 2010 01:57:22 GMT Okay, so it has come to my attention, quite obviously, that a lot of people see me as rude and elitist just because I point out logical fallacies and factual mistakes in people's posts.
I've also gathered that I "attack" people.

Here's where I want to address this issue about "rudeness" so-to-speak.

I am not rude or elitist for pointing out logical fallacies and factual mistakes in your posts if we're having a discussion/debate.
If we form our discussions around logical fallacies and factual mistakes the discussion is a waste of time and no good can come from it.
If we're discussing the word "Pagan" and you're talking from the point of view where the word "Pagan" is interchangeable with "collective name for all earth worshiping religions" instead of being one of three things (polytheistic religions/non-christian/Muslim/Jew/irreligious person) the discussion we're having is not even going to make sense.

I do not "attack" people. I do not, intentionally and with the intent to cause harm, call people nasty names or attack their person.
Furthermore I would like to point out that questioning your opinion is not a personal attack.

I'm not going to give people more respect than I give to my sisters, my mother, my husband or my best friends, am I? And yes, I debate and argue with them, pretty much identically as to how I debate here (except I talk instead, and shove dictionaries in their faces).
If you cannot understand that you do not come before my loved ones in being deserving of respect, then I cannot do anything about that.

Your idea of respect could be different from mine. If I endeavor to discuss and debate things with you, that means I think I can get something out of it. And no, I don't mean intellectual superiority.
If we were talking in real life you'd know that I don't discuss things to gloat. If I did I would. But you don't see me do it, do you?

I don't post things or correct facts to feel superior to anyone. I don't debate to be rude. If I do debate with you that is usually a sign that I respect you enough to spend time talking to you, if I didn't I'd laugh my ass off at your post, shake my head and leave the computer to make another coffee, not looking twice at it.
Debating with people I think are truly crazy, idiotic, stupid and I don't respect at all wouldn't give me anything but an ulcer.

For short:
I correct facts and logical fallacies because debating from an incorrect basis will not get us anywhere.
The fact that I am debating with you is proof of the fact that I have some level of respect for you.
I don't agree with my family and friends all of the time either, and the only difference between how I treat you and them is that I get a bit louder and less controlled when discussing things with friends and family.

So, am I really all that rude, disrespectful and elitist?
Have you just misunderstood me?

If you still think I am rude, disrespectful and elitist I would suggest you put me on ignore, because I don't foresee me starting to offer you more respect than I do the people I love the most in the world anytime soon.

:thumbsup: I'm glad I got to clear that out. ]]> Just Talk Njorun Alma http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232278 <![CDATA[What to do About My Boyfriend's Mother?]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232268&goto=newpost Wed, 01 Sep 2010 19:12:12 GMT So my boyfriend and his family live in a rented house. Their landlord has two goats. One of the goat's choke collars got embedded in its neck and it was bleeding and oozing and hurting the poor thing. I don't know how it got that way- if someone did it on purpose or if it just accidentally got tangled that way . Either way, I wanted to help it. I told my boyfriend's mom that either I could go back and wake the landlord up and tell him about it or I could call Animal Protection and get the police involved. I didn't think it was something that should be taken care of in the morning. I felt I must do something NOW. My boyfriend's mother got to arguing with me. She didn't want me to do anything about it. She claimed they'd be evicted if I did. It was like I was trying to be assertive about what I believed, but she was being aggressive. Finally I gave up and went home crying hysterically. Things had been building up on me and this just put me over the edge. I scratched my wrist open to soothe the anger. My mom saw it and took me to the hospital where I stayed on the psychiatric care floor for four days. The goat did end up getting untangled that night after I argued with her, but I was still upset because now she's mad at me and I was only trying to do the right thing...I don't want to be another one of those girls that doesn't get along with her mother-in-law. Did I do the right thing to stand up for the goat? Was it worth the cost of my relationship with her? Should I apologize, or do I have nothing to apologize for? What should I do? Should we sit down and talk and try to make things up? Help. ]]> Just Talk Rosetta Morrigan http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232268 toothache story that I wanted to share http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232247&goto=newpost Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:45:51 GMT Let me start by saying my teeth are in horrid shape. I have had 1 tooth pulled, and 3 others that have very little left, all molars. Last night much of the final bad tooth broke off. No biggie, I'm used to it. Today I took a nap and woke up with my mouth sore. Took some advil and the pain went away. A few hours later it came back, far worse than before. Next to a kidney stone the worst pain in my life. Over 90 minutes I took 6 Advil and 2 Vicodin (left over from my kidney stone), the pain still wasn't going away. So I asked on facebook if anyone knew if an ER would take me. I had several helpful responses, including that indeed there was a local ER who would take care of me. By this point the pain had FINALLY started to dull, and I decided for now I would just try to deal with it. I explained how I couldn't afford anything, and that I don't like others paying for my problems. My boss for my secondary (secondary only because the work is sporadic) job responded letting me know that if it was indeed an emergency, and if I couldn't afford it, to have a dentist call him and he would take care of it and I could work it off and take my time paying him back.

I realize at this point I'm rambling (probably the drugs), it just amazes me how lucky I am to have such an amazing boss, and just how awesome some people are. ]]> Just Talk memnoch http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232247 Doing it right this time. :) http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232219&goto=newpost Mon, 30 Aug 2010 21:06:09 GMT I'm getting married! ^_^ In about 2 weeks. :lol:

I'm excited. We're doing a simple ceremony. We're going to hike through the woods, find a nice spot, and have the ceremony. Our parents are less then thrilled about that aspect though. My parents were hoping it would be indoors, and his mom is *really* traditional. But, they're all being supportive, which is wonderful. ]]> Just Talk RoseKitten http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232219 <![CDATA[Been a Year, But I've come to say hi!]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232189&goto=newpost Sun, 29 Aug 2010 02:17:53 GMT Hello to all my mw friends. Been a while, but I still love this place, and miss all of you!

I've been a very busy bee this last year. Some good things have come of it, some bad as well.

It's good to be back!

Linxie ]]> Just Talk Linx http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232189 FB games! http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232180&goto=newpost Sat, 28 Aug 2010 19:57:42 GMT Who is addicted to FB games?
I am hooked on Zoo world, Fishville and Farmville. LOL

What I like is once a day for 10 minutes and I'm caught up so I dont have to constantly play. Its a fun break in the day. I like them! :)

Also I play with my daughter so we help one another out. Something kid and mom can do on the net just for the fun of it!!!! :) ]]> Just Talk Shanti http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232180 Irish Gaelic pronunciation http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232179&goto=newpost Sat, 28 Aug 2010 19:40:56 GMT Wasnt sure what category this would fall under but I was wondering if anyone could help me with the pronunciation of a gaelic phrase? Wasnt sure what category this would fall under but I was wondering if anyone could help me with the pronunciation of a gaelic phrase? ]]> Just Talk tjw1975 http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232179 What should I call my pagan student organization? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232163&goto=newpost Fri, 27 Aug 2010 16:23:42 GMT I'm starting a pagan student organization at my college, the University of Toledo. What should I call it? I was thinking something nature related... ]]> Just Talk Rosetta Morrigan http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232163 <![CDATA[I know it's her job, but...!]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232130&goto=newpost Wed, 25 Aug 2010 21:22:01 GMT ...how do you kindly request that a sales person leave you alone in a store? This can be generalized, but the recent incident (well, the last few incidents) is at a shoe store, a place that some of you know I detest going into on principle because just looking at most shoes make my feet hurt. ... ...how do you kindly request that a sales person leave you alone in a store?

This can be generalized, but the recent incident (well, the last few incidents) is at a shoe store, a place that some of you know I detest going into on principle because just looking at most shoes make my feet hurt.

This is one of the chain stores which advertise paying less for shoes.

I want to find cheapest shoes that don't hurt my feet and get out. I don't care about looks, except that they be in the acceptable range for work, which at my current job is fairly broad.

I have expressed to the sales girl that I don't need help, and can find what I'm looking for on my own. It doesn't work. She'll go away for (and the last time I was in, I timed it) 30 seconds, and then come straight back, and start making suggestions.

Last time my anxiety was flaring up, so I glared at her and left the store (I went in feeling fine, went out on the verge of tears, and it wasn't the time of month that hormones would be influencing me), but I am aware that she's trying to do her job. Maybe there's something in training that requires them to go ask? Maybe I look like an ebil person about to shoplift, I don't know.

But here's the issues:

1. She selects based on style and Pwetty, rather than comfort (Chunky, not high heels, but raised heels and yeah, I've tried them on on the past, and yes, they hurt, fairly instantly)., even though I've made it clear that they hurt and I just want to look at the tennis-shoes.

2. I can't concentrate on how my feet feel when someone is hovering over me and I feel like they are rushing me. I can't find what fits best because she won't.shut.up. Last pair of shoes I got before the walk-out incident, I couldn't tell that they hurt when I was there, but when I got home and tried them, I could feel the pressure points instantly...

3. I told her I'm anxious when I have people hovering over me.

4. That shoe store is the only place I can usually find decent shoes, and my shopping times correspond unfortunately with her shifts. Occasionally I've been fortunate at Wal-Mart or Target. Shoe Carnival blasts their music so loud that my chest hurts, so, not like I can feel my feet under those circumstances. And I don't pay more than $30 for shoes tops, maybe $40 for a decent pair of winter boots. I don't like paying more than $15.

I'm considering playing along, buying a lot, and then coming in the following week to return all of them and telling her it's her fault for not leaving me alone when I asked to be, and that I couldn't tell that they hurt as a result, which is frankly true. My luck though, it would be some other poor soul working the day I attempted the returns though. Not to mention that it would just be kind of mean and petty, and I'm not sure she'd understand.

And I've been lucky or unlucky enough to occasionally come in on a busy day. No one else seems to have an issue, most welcome her, and are quite cheerful. She knows people by name (including me), so she does recognize people from one visit to the next.

How can I get her to understand that she's not. helping. me. though? ]]> Just Talk Corvis Canis Latrans http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232130 <![CDATA[Guys, are you hesitant to drink "girly" beverages?]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232127&goto=newpost Wed, 25 Aug 2010 18:14:40 GMT I was looking at this post titles "How the Patriarchy Screws Men out of Screwdrivers" and wondering if any men really refrain from drinking what they want because it is percieved as "girly." What do you think?

http://thesocietypages.org/socimages...-screwdrivers/ ]]> Just Talk Djiril http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232127 Pushy people http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232082&goto=newpost Tue, 24 Aug 2010 19:59:27 GMT Today I had a visit from 2 Jehovah witnesses twice. Why do " Christian " feel they must convert you? And why when you tell them you are Pagan they look as though you are nut's? ]]> Just Talk southernriana http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232082 Bug bite? Maybe? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232054&goto=newpost Tue, 24 Aug 2010 03:10:49 GMT I know it doesn't really go here, but I figured it get more response in this part of the forum.

I think I have two bug bites. I didn't even notice them, but my fiance did. We went for a random hike not quite 24 hours ago. Both are on my legs, just above the ankle. I can still feel the skin, but poking them is different. They don't hurt like bruises normally do. I'm going to keep an eye on them, but thought maybe someone on here would have an idea for me. ^_^ Thanks!
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]]> Just Talk RoseKitten http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232054 The Pagan community - Growing or Shrinking?? http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232051&goto=newpost Tue, 24 Aug 2010 02:01:30 GMT Hi all,

I've been thinking about this lately as I'm largely a solitary Wiccan that only comes in contact with the community very rarely (about once a year).

For a long time, 2000 - 2006 I definitely felt as though the pagan community was growing, almost exponentially it felt like. Every time I would check back in with the community at large I would hear of new stores in my area - new groups, new everything and there was such a sense of growth around Wicca which was really incredible.

Now, in 2010 - it feels to me as though the rate of growth has slowed down significantly. I live in New York City where a few book stores and pagan supply stores have closed lately. I'm sure a lot of this is due to the internet but could it be that the tremendous rate of growth we saw for so long is beginning to wain? What would this mean for our community - would it even matter?

I believe its a little bitter sweet. Although the internet has really brought us together and made witchcraft incredibly accessible as it is right now for everyone who's reading this on Mystic Wicks, its also significantly decentralized the community. What we're loosing is the physical brick and mortar community found in book shops and little occult stores which really is the heart and soul of the community.

Maybe Wicca is still growing incredibly though the internet and its allowed practitioners to become a lot more self sufficient and solitary? I'm just curious what everyones take on the current state of growth in the community, both local and at large?

Thanks! ]]> Just Talk Kallisto http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232051 some good news I read today http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232025&goto=newpost Mon, 23 Aug 2010 16:52:38 GMT http://www.aolnews.com/nation/article/usda-to-try-new-summer-system-for-feeding-poor-students/19598805?icid=main%7Chp-desktop%7Cdl1%7Csec1_lnk3%7C165497 http://www.aolnews.com/nation/articl..._lnk3%7C165497 ]]> Just Talk mountainpeace http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=232025 <![CDATA[Astral travel help? (Can't find the right topic for it)]]> http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=231828&goto=newpost Sat, 21 Aug 2010 21:10:31 GMT Hi all,
Hopefully someone can help with this. I have a friend who suffers from sleep paralysis and I tried to figure out what she goes through by doing it myself. I laid down for bed and managed to reach the vibration state but lost focus. I haven't been able to do it since (did it about two years ago). Until two nights ago.
I focused my mind so much it almost hurt. I was bound and determined to astral project. I managed to enter the same vibrational state again, but this time something different happened. I began to have this sensation that I was rolling on my right side and falling. I knew something was going on, but no matter how hard I tried I couldn't control it.

So was I doing something right or wrong? Any insight is greatly appreciated.

-RTH ]]> Just Talk RedTailHawk http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=231828